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Post by Sage6Paths on May 6, 2014 19:11:22 GMT -6
Ugh, I suck at relationships. I like thinking ahead when it comes to my relationship, but my girlfriend doesn't. So when she talks about the future, it's mostly in terms like "mine" or "my." And I think of it like "ours." So like, she says she's too young to think about moving in with me anytime soon. EDIT: I just needed some advice, I don't know if I should have posted this lol. Personally, I believe you have to respect her wishes. However, if you provide a list of the positive of living together together I think she may get more convinced. |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 19:12:01 GMT -6
Ugh, I suck at relationships. I like thinking ahead when it comes to my relationship, but my girlfriend doesn't. So when she talks about the future, it's mostly in terms like "mine" or "my." And I think of it like "ours." So like, she says she's too young to think about moving in with me anytime soon. EDIT: I just needed some advice, I don't know if I should have posted this lol. Ah it's all good dude. The most important thing in ANY relationship is communication. If there's a concern, want, need, make sure you make it known. It's always tough to approach things that way especially with the "moving in" talk. If that's how she feels currently then its best not to push the issue. But at least have it on the table that you're ready for that phase in your relationship and hopefully work toward it together. That's my diplomatic take there as I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship haha But yeah, is she really that much younger? |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 19:14:50 GMT -6
Ugh, I suck at relationships. I like thinking ahead when it comes to my relationship, but my girlfriend doesn't. So when she talks about the future, it's mostly in terms like "mine" or "my." And I think of it like "ours." So like, she says she's too young to think about moving in with me anytime soon. EDIT: I just needed some advice, I don't know if I should have posted this lol. Ah it's all good dude. The most important thing in ANY relationship is communication. If there's a concern, want, need, make sure you make it known. It's always tough to approach things that way especially with the "moving in" talk. If that's how she feels currently then its best not to push the issue. But at least have it on the table that you're ready for that phase in your relationship and hopefully work toward it together. That's my diplomatic take there as I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship haha But yeah, is she really that much younger? Not much younger than me. I ended up asking if she wants me in her future and she told me she doesn't know what she wants in the future. Is that bad? |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 19:22:26 GMT -6
Ah it's all good dude. The most important thing in ANY relationship is communication. If there's a concern, want, need, make sure you make it known. It's always tough to approach things that way especially with the "moving in" talk. If that's how she feels currently then its best not to push the issue. But at least have it on the table that you're ready for that phase in your relationship and hopefully work toward it together. That's my diplomatic take there as I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship haha But yeah, is she really that much younger? Not much younger than me. I ended up asking if she wants me in her future and she told me she doesn't know what she wants in the future. Is that bad? Oh man. You got a fickle one it seems. I dont want to outright say "its bad," because, again, I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship and the last thing i want to do is put false good/bad thoughts into someones headspace. You have said she's under a lot of pressure with school, and in my experience with women they seem to.. falter and question things a lot under that kind of pressure. Just went through something myself about 5 months back so i know how the "i dont know's" feel. BUT, if i had to give you my immediate thoughts, it would be that she doesnt sound as committed as you are. How are other facets of your relationship usually? Are you guys usually on the same page with things? |
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Post by Sage6Paths on May 6, 2014 19:22:38 GMT -6
Ah it's all good dude. The most important thing in ANY relationship is communication. If there's a concern, want, need, make sure you make it known. It's always tough to approach things that way especially with the "moving in" talk. If that's how she feels currently then its best not to push the issue. But at least have it on the table that you're ready for that phase in your relationship and hopefully work toward it together. That's my diplomatic take there as I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship haha But yeah, is she really that much younger? Not much younger than me. I ended up asking if she wants me in her future and she told me she doesn't know what she wants in the future. Is that bad? Dude, I am just picturing you saying that to her randomly and then you getting on your computer really fast to await a response from us. Lol. Anyways, I think it's normal for a relationship but you need to get a better answer soon. Start planning your future together either way or else she will think you aren't prepared. |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 19:26:14 GMT -6
Not much younger than me. I ended up asking if she wants me in her future and she told me she doesn't know what she wants in the future. Is that bad? Oh man. You got a fickle one it seems. I dont want to outright say "its bad," because, again, I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship and the last thing i want to do is put false good/bad thoughts into someones headspace. You have said she's under a lot of pressure with school, and in my experience with women they seem to.. falter and question things a lot under that kind of pressure. Just went through something myself about 5 months back so i know how the "i dont know's" feel. BUT, if i had to give you my immediate thoughts, it would be that she doesnt sound as committed as you are. How are other facets of your relationship usually? Are you guys usually on the same page with things? Not sure how to quote both of you yet. Anyways, we've been together for a year now. We've only almost broken up twice. We've had plenty of fights. Things are usually fine, but there's a good amount of bad stuff that's happened. The doubts are usually on my end because she never wants to plan anything out. She has no idea on anything future-wise. And it really hurt that she said that. As for Sage, yeah lol. I've been refreshing this page a lot. EDIT: I'm trying to talk to her, but she's watching a video... |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 19:41:27 GMT -6
Oh man. You got a fickle one it seems. I dont want to outright say "its bad," because, again, I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship and the last thing i want to do is put false good/bad thoughts into someones headspace. You have said she's under a lot of pressure with school, and in my experience with women they seem to.. falter and question things a lot under that kind of pressure. Just went through something myself about 5 months back so i know how the "i dont know's" feel. BUT, if i had to give you my immediate thoughts, it would be that she doesnt sound as committed as you are. How are other facets of your relationship usually? Are you guys usually on the same page with things? Not sure how to quote both of you yet. Anyways, we've been together for a year now. We've only almost broken up twice. We've had plenty of fights. Things are usually fine, but there's a good amount of bad stuff that's happened. The doubts are usually on my end because she never wants to plan anything out. She has no idea on anything future-wise. And it really hurt that she said that. As for Sage, yeah lol. I've been refreshing this page a lot. If you click the gear and click select post, then hit reply, it'll have any posts you've selected. Its odd, im still getting used to it too haha Yeah thats important, if it hurt you that badly ((and of course it hurt!)) then it should be brought up as diplomatically as possible. Another thing thats easier said than done, because emotions. Relationships are constant compromise so trying to understand eachothers current standing is important. Maybe find out why she feels that way? But I have a feeling you might just get another "I dont know" if shes as unsure about things as you say. These are tough because it makes you feel like you're walking on eggshells because you dont want to pry. And that absolutely sucks. But its of the utmost importance that you guys are on the same page. And again, if shes as stressed out as she claims, then it might turn into a fight unnaturally fast. I really wish I had more for you dude, the devil is in the details unfortunately. You know her best, so you know what limits you can or cant push. I dont want to project my shitty experiences your way lol |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 19:43:03 GMT -6
I'm trying to talk to her, but she's watching a video... Oh good lord. Is this a common occurrence? Sounds like she's really avoiding the issue  |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 20:09:40 GMT -6
I'm trying to talk to her, but she's watching a video... Oh good lord. Is this a common occurrence? Sounds like she's really avoiding the issue Sometimes. Not usually during a big discussion like this :/ |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 20:20:02 GMT -6
She stopped talking to me an hour ago.
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 20:35:33 GMT -6
She stopped talking to me an hour ago. sssiiiigggghhhh fuck dude. I've been there, so screw it, I'll relate. Im not saying any of this is happeing, because that'd be absurd for me to even suggest, BUT MY GENERAL OPINION IS: a girl that fickle and unwilling to talk about things that affect YOU emotionally AND the relationship for BOTH of you is no good in the long-term and uninvested in the relationship. They're flaky and tend to want to keep their "options open" so to speak. It shows an intense insecurity in what they have because they constantly wonder "what if?" In the past 2 years ive been in 2 separate situations where women have turned to ME because of their intense insecurity and uncertainty in their relationships. Im a complete dumbass for humoring them and i consider them The WORST experiences of my life and the most emotionally draining. They taught me a lot in the long run about the kind of people to avoid, but it doesnt make the past hurt any less. Thats just in MY personal experience, and i dont want to suggest you're dealing with the same kind of women I have. But thats a common characteristic I've noticed. When things get too real they just check out. So if she doesnt take your feelings seriously i suggest you guys determine if theres a relationship worth saving and fighting for. Otherwise you're going to drive youself nuts with "what did I do wrong?" And I dont wish that upon anyone. Its obviously driving you nuts, and I've even driven myself to the point of insanity giving people my heart and feelings when they didnt deserve it. I've learned a lot from it, but man does it suck. I hope you can get to the bottom of dude, because im with you. Its pure shit. Edit:: again, i cant stress enough that i dont know the details. Its just an archetype that sounds too familar. Maybe she wants to move elsewhere? Maybe she really IS just clueless about the future and it stresses her out? And maybe its not a reflection of you at all! Thats all incredibly possible. I just wanted to level with you with my crap experiences. |
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Post by Wolverine12 on May 6, 2014 21:33:38 GMT -6
Ugh, I suck at relationships. I like thinking ahead when it comes to my relationship, but my girlfriend doesn't. So when she talks about the future, it's mostly in terms like "mine" or "my." And I think of it like "ours." So like, she says she's too young to think about moving in with me anytime soon. EDIT: I just needed some advice, I don't know if I should have posted this lol. She stopped talking to me an hour ago. Hey buddy, based on what I've been reading here I want to put in my .02. I'm a bit older (32) so I've been around the block a few times and dated girls like this. I hate to be blunt or sound hurtful but I'm going to give you my honest opinion. I don't think she is the one for you. She doesn't want you around so she can study for school, she doesn't want to talk about a future together and unless you are being completely hidden in your feelings about her and this treatment, she doesn't seem to care all that much that she is hurting you. You don't deserve to be treated like that. I got strung along by a girl once and I got hurt really bad, she slept with a buddy of mine. I was really young at the time and I didn't see the signs. I've dated other girls that if we dated for awhile they would push away me if I wanted to get serious or avoid the subject all together. After I got hurt by the first girl I didn't stand for it anymore. I gave them a choice, tell me what you think this is or I'm leaving. I'm not saying I wanted to marry every girl I dated but after awhile you have a right to know if the person wants to continue a relationship with you, but be prepared for an answer you don't want. I'm not saying that you can't be in two different places either. One of you could want to move forward and the other isn't ready. That doesn't mean the person who doesn't want to move forward yet doesn't care, people can be in 2 different spots. My wife was ready to get married for a few years before I was, she waited and now we are very happy. The reason I think she may not be the one for you is because she doesn't seem to care that she is hurting you. I knew my wife was ready before I was, I was willing to talk about it with her and I cared a lot if I hurt her. I really hope it works out for you man, you deserve an answer. |
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Post by thedarman on May 6, 2014 21:51:14 GMT -6
Sony is expecting to get three times back on Spider-Man. That's why it's "disappointing" I haven't heard anything like this except from MarvelCinematicUniverse.com. Can you direct me to a source? |
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Post by wyokid on May 6, 2014 21:55:18 GMT -6
Sony is expecting to get three times back on Spider-Man. That's why it's "disappointing" I haven't heard anything like this except from MarvelCinematicUniverse.com. Can you direct me to a source? I've never even heard of that website. This looks like the most fan-y fansite I've ever seen lol |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 22:01:16 GMT -6
Sony is expecting to get three times back on Spider-Man. That's why it's "disappointing" I haven't heard anything like this except from MarvelCinematicUniverse.com. Can you direct me to a source? As far as I know studios typically want to take in revenue thats AT LEAST double of what the film budget was in order to cover the actual Filming budget AND the marketing budget. That way it breaks even. Im not 100% what Sony's goal was, but if their aggressive marketing campaign is anything to go by, then I have a feeling they were rooting for the ASM2 to break the mold of decreasing returns for the franchise.  |
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Post by wyokid on May 6, 2014 22:05:35 GMT -6
That was by far my new favorite episode of Agents of SHIELD. Holy crap.
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 22:19:28 GMT -6
She stopped talking to me an hour ago. sssiiiigggghhhh fuck dude. I've been there, so screw it, I'll relate. Im not saying any of this is happeing, because that'd be absurd for me to even suggest, BUT MY GENERAL OPINION IS: a girl that fickle and unwilling to talk about things that affect YOU emotionally AND the relationship for BOTH of you is no good in the long-term and uninvested in the relationship. They're flaky and tend to want to keep their "options open" so to speak. It shows an intense insecurity in what they have because they constantly wonder "what if?" In the past 2 years ive been in 2 separate situations where women have turned to ME because of their intense insecurity and uncertainty in their relationships. Im a complete dumbass for humoring them and i consider them The WORST experiences of my life and the most emotionally draining. They taught me a lot in the long run about the kind of people to avoid, but it doesnt make the past hurt any less. Thats just in MY personal experience, and i dont want to suggest you're dealing with the same kind of women I have. But thats a common characteristic I've noticed. When things get too real they just check out. So if she doesnt take your feelings seriously i suggest you guys determine if theres a relationship worth saving and fighting for. Otherwise you're going to drive youself nuts with "what did I do wrong?" And I dont wish that upon anyone. Its obviously driving you nuts, and I've even driven myself to the point of insanity giving people my heart and feelings when they didnt deserve it. I've learned a lot from it, but man does it suck. I hope you can get to the bottom of dude, because im with you. Its pure shit. Edit:: again, i cant stress enough that i dont know the details. Its just an archetype that sounds too familar. Maybe she wants to move elsewhere? Maybe she really IS just clueless about the future and it stresses her out? And maybe its not a reflection of you at all! Thats all incredibly possible. I just wanted to level with you with my crap experiences. Ugh, I suck at relationships. I like thinking ahead when it comes to my relationship, but my girlfriend doesn't. So when she talks about the future, it's mostly in terms like "mine" or "my." And I think of it like "ours." So like, she says she's too young to think about moving in with me anytime soon. EDIT: I just needed some advice, I don't know if I should have posted this lol. She stopped talking to me an hour ago. Hey buddy, based on what I've been reading here I want to put in my .02. I'm a bit older (32) so I've been around the block a few times and dated girls like this. I hate to be blunt or sound hurtful but I'm going to give you my honest opinion. I don't think she is the one for you. She doesn't want you around so she can study for school, she doesn't want to talk about a future together and unless you are being completely hidden in your feelings about her and this treatment, she doesn't seem to care all that much that she is hurting you. You don't deserve to be treated like that. I got strung along by a girl once and I got hurt really bad, she slept with a buddy of mine. I was really young at the time and I didn't see the signs. I've dated other girls that if we dated for awhile they would push away me if I wanted to get serious or avoid the subject all together. After I got hurt by the first girl I didn't stand for it anymore. I gave them a choice, tell me what you think this is or I'm leaving. I'm not saying I wanted to marry every girl I dated but after awhile you have a right to know if the person wants to continue a relationship with you, but be prepared for an answer you don't want. I'm not saying that you can't be in two different places either. One of you could want to move forward and the other isn't ready. That doesn't mean the person who doesn't want to move forward yet doesn't care, people can be in 2 different spots. My wife was ready to get married for a few years before I was, she waited and now we are very happy. The reason I think she may not be the one for you is because she doesn't seem to care that she is hurting you. I knew my wife was ready before I was, I was willing to talk about it with her and I cared a lot if I hurt her. I really hope it works out for you man, you deserve an answer. I feel like shit right now. |
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Post by Wolverine12 on May 6, 2014 22:32:35 GMT -6
sssiiiigggghhhh fuck dude. I've been there, so screw it, I'll relate. Im not saying any of this is happeing, because that'd be absurd for me to even suggest, BUT MY GENERAL OPINION IS: a girl that fickle and unwilling to talk about things that affect YOU emotionally AND the relationship for BOTH of you is no good in the long-term and uninvested in the relationship. They're flaky and tend to want to keep their "options open" so to speak. It shows an intense insecurity in what they have because they constantly wonder "what if?" In the past 2 years ive been in 2 separate situations where women have turned to ME because of their intense insecurity and uncertainty in their relationships. Im a complete dumbass for humoring them and i consider them The WORST experiences of my life and the most emotionally draining. They taught me a lot in the long run about the kind of people to avoid, but it doesnt make the past hurt any less. Thats just in MY personal experience, and i dont want to suggest you're dealing with the same kind of women I have. But thats a common characteristic I've noticed. When things get too real they just check out. So if she doesnt take your feelings seriously i suggest you guys determine if theres a relationship worth saving and fighting for. Otherwise you're going to drive youself nuts with "what did I do wrong?" And I dont wish that upon anyone. Its obviously driving you nuts, and I've even driven myself to the point of insanity giving people my heart and feelings when they didnt deserve it. I've learned a lot from it, but man does it suck. I hope you can get to the bottom of dude, because im with you. Its pure shit. Edit:: again, i cant stress enough that i dont know the details. Its just an archetype that sounds too familar. Maybe she wants to move elsewhere? Maybe she really IS just clueless about the future and it stresses her out? And maybe its not a reflection of you at all! Thats all incredibly possible. I just wanted to level with you with my crap experiences. Hey buddy, based on what I've been reading here I want to put in my .02. I'm a bit older (32) so I've been around the block a few times and dated girls like this. I hate to be blunt or sound hurtful but I'm going to give you my honest opinion. I don't think she is the one for you. She doesn't want you around so she can study for school, she doesn't want to talk about a future together and unless you are being completely hidden in your feelings about her and this treatment, she doesn't seem to care all that much that she is hurting you. You don't deserve to be treated like that. I got strung along by a girl once and I got hurt really bad, she slept with a buddy of mine. I was really young at the time and I didn't see the signs. I've dated other girls that if we dated for awhile they would push away me if I wanted to get serious or avoid the subject all together. After I got hurt by the first girl I didn't stand for it anymore. I gave them a choice, tell me what you think this is or I'm leaving. I'm not saying I wanted to marry every girl I dated but after awhile you have a right to know if the person wants to continue a relationship with you, but be prepared for an answer you don't want. I'm not saying that you can't be in two different places either. One of you could want to move forward and the other isn't ready. That doesn't mean the person who doesn't want to move forward yet doesn't care, people can be in 2 different spots. My wife was ready to get married for a few years before I was, she waited and now we are very happy. The reason I think she may not be the one for you is because she doesn't seem to care that she is hurting you. I knew my wife was ready before I was, I was willing to talk about it with her and I cared a lot if I hurt her. I really hope it works out for you man, you deserve an answer. I feel like shit right now. I'm really sorry man but you deserve to be treated better. |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 22:34:16 GMT -6
I feel like shit right now. I'm really sorry man but you deserve to be treated better. Right now she's ignoring me, and since she's already said we won't be talking as often while she studies, this means I have to wait to see how our argument ends. And I hate those kinds. I mean, I don't want to wait a day or more to find out if I'm going to be single or what. |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 22:41:47 GMT -6
I'm really sorry man but you deserve to be treated better. Right now she's ignoring me, and since she's already said we won't be talking as often while she studies, this means I have to wait to see how our argument ends. And I hate those kinds. I mean, I don't want to wait a day or more to find out if I'm going to be single or what. Yeah dude Im sorry, thats utter bullshit. You dont deserve to be treated like that for wanting a straight answer. Its gonna hurt regardless, but do what you can to keep yourself busy. I sincerely hope theres more that can be done, but otherwise it might be best to move on. As Wolverine12 and I have both said, we've been with women like that and theyre no good. The fact that shes just gonna keep you worried without an answer is selfish and messed up. Relationships and feelings arent a game and shouldnt be treated as such. Its not how mature people deal with problems. |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 22:45:06 GMT -6
Right now she's ignoring me, and since she's already said we won't be talking as often while she studies, this means I have to wait to see how our argument ends. And I hate those kinds. I mean, I don't want to wait a day or more to find out if I'm going to be single or what. Yeah dude Im sorry, thats utter bullshit. You dont deserve to be treated like that for wanting a straight answer. Its gonna hurt regardless, but do what you can to keep yourself busy. I sincerely hope theres more that can be done, but otherwise it might be best to move on. As Wolverine12 and I have both said, we've been with women like that and theyre no good. The fact that shes just gonna keep you worried without an answer is selfish and messed up. Relationships and feelings arent a game and shouldnt be treated as such. Its not how mature people deal with problems. Yeah, I've had a bad relationship before. Girl only dated me because her choice for a boyfriend was taken. She had doubts about us the entire time and would always wonder what it was like to date other guys. We eventually broke up, but not before she really damaged me. I was a mess after that. |
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Post by Wolverine12 on May 6, 2014 22:51:14 GMT -6
I'm really sorry man but you deserve to be treated better. Right now she's ignoring me, and since she's already said we won't be talking as often while she studies, this means I have to wait to see how our argument ends. And I hate those kinds. I mean, I don't want to wait a day or more to find out if I'm going to be single or what. Dude, you don't deserve that. Do you want to stay with a girl who treats you like this? |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 22:54:16 GMT -6
Right now she's ignoring me, and since she's already said we won't be talking as often while she studies, this means I have to wait to see how our argument ends. And I hate those kinds. I mean, I don't want to wait a day or more to find out if I'm going to be single or what. Dude, you don't deserve that. Do you want to stay with a girl who treats you like this? I don't know. I care about her and I keep thinking it's because she's so stressed out or maybe I pushed too hard, but I mean I do deserve an answer which I haven't gotten. The whole "I'm with you, aren't I?" thing doesn't really do it. I honestly can't believe she told me she doesn't know what she wants in the future. I mean, I understand not knowing what will come down the line, but she should at least hope and want to be with me years from now, right? |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 22:59:29 GMT -6
Yeah dude Im sorry, thats utter bullshit. You dont deserve to be treated like that for wanting a straight answer. Its gonna hurt regardless, but do what you can to keep yourself busy. I sincerely hope theres more that can be done, but otherwise it might be best to move on. As Wolverine12 and I have both said, we've been with women like that and theyre no good. The fact that shes just gonna keep you worried without an answer is selfish and messed up. Relationships and feelings arent a game and shouldnt be treated as such. Its not how mature people deal with problems. Yeah, I've had a bad relationship before. Girl only dated me because her choice for a boyfriend was taken. She had doubts about us the entire time and would always wonder what it was like to date other guys. We eventually broke up, but not before she really damaged me. I was a mess after that. I hear you dude. In the past couple years, between normal failed dates, I had 2 awful experiences with girls. They both seemed to think their relationships were falling apart and came on to me STRONG. Needless to say, I allowed the wrong things to happen. I had very low self-respect and they made me think there was more there. Yet it seems their interactions with me only solidified their relationships. One of them is even married now while the other will be a mom in a couple of months! I'm happy I can laugh about it all now, but it doesnt change how badly it affected my self worth at the time. Hell, I'm still healing. We all have baggage, its just about how we choose to carry it. I know who I am and I embrace who I am even if its taken an unfortunate amount of mistakes to get here. It may sound lame, but theres never a last chance for happiness. I dont believe in fate, but i believe in numbers. Theres someone out there worth the time and effort for all of us. The hard part is having the patience and perseverance to make it happen. |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 23:04:12 GMT -6
Dude, you don't deserve that. Do you want to stay with a girl who treats you like this? I don't know. I care about her and I keep thinking it's because she's so stressed out or maybe I pushed too hard, but I mean I do deserve an answer which I haven't gotten. The whole "I'm with you, aren't I?" thing doesn't really do it. I honestly can't believe she told me she doesn't know what she wants in the future. I mean, I understand not knowing what will come down the line, but she should at least hope and want to be with me years from now, right? I think if someone is already short-sighting your relationship its bad news. Whether its too soon to talk about years in the future is up for debate, but being in a committed relationship doesnt mean "im with you right now." Thats what dating is, an in the moment kind of thing. A relationship is a mutual agreement on companionship. You're well within your right to discuss where your relationship stands and shouldnt be penalized for wanting a straight answer from someone who's supposed to be your companion. But some people also dont value relationships the same way some of us do either. |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 23:07:01 GMT -6
Yeah, I've had a bad relationship before. Girl only dated me because her choice for a boyfriend was taken. She had doubts about us the entire time and would always wonder what it was like to date other guys. We eventually broke up, but not before she really damaged me. I was a mess after that. I hear you dude. In the past couple years, between normal failed dates, I had 2 awful experiences with girls. They both seemed to think their relationships were falling apart and came on to me STRONG. Needless to say, I allowed the wrong things to happen. I had very low self-respect and they made me think there was more there. Yet it seems their interactions with me only solidified their relationships. One of them is even married now while the other will be a mom in a couple of months! I'm happy I can laugh about it all now, but it doesnt change how badly it affected my self worth at the time. Hell, I'm still healing. We all have baggage, its just about how we choose to carry it. I know who I am and I embrace who I am even if its taken an unfortunate amount of mistakes to get here. It may sound lame, but theres never a last chance for happiness. I dont believe in fate, but i believe in numbers. Theres someone out there worth the time and effort for all of us. The hard part is having the patience and perseverance to make it happen. I've only had 6 girlfriends and none lasted too long. That one girl I talked about? It ended because she cheated. She was talking to another guy pretending not to be dating anyone. I found out and I was actually stupid and thought we could work it out. It didn't and we ended things. So for the longest time I was paranoid about women. I'll be honest and admit that a few times I've thought my current girlfriend was doing that, though I didn't have any proof whatsoever. I was just utterly paranoid after the worst relationship I'd had. And we did break up once, I had forgotten. She was questioning whether she loved me anymore but it lasted only a few hours before she came back saying she realized she couldn't be without me. And we haven't really had serious fight in quite awhile. |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 23:17:29 GMT -6
I hear you dude. In the past couple years, between normal failed dates, I had 2 awful experiences with girls. They both seemed to think their relationships were falling apart and came on to me STRONG. Needless to say, I allowed the wrong things to happen. I had very low self-respect and they made me think there was more there. Yet it seems their interactions with me only solidified their relationships. One of them is even married now while the other will be a mom in a couple of months! I'm happy I can laugh about it all now, but it doesnt change how badly it affected my self worth at the time. Hell, I'm still healing. We all have baggage, its just about how we choose to carry it. I know who I am and I embrace who I am even if its taken an unfortunate amount of mistakes to get here. It may sound lame, but theres never a last chance for happiness. I dont believe in fate, but i believe in numbers. Theres someone out there worth the time and effort for all of us. The hard part is having the patience and perseverance to make it happen. I've only had 6 girlfriends and none lasted too long. That one girl I talked about? It ended because she cheated. She was talking to another guy pretending not to be dating anyone. I found out and I was actually stupid and thought we could work it out. It didn't and we ended things. So for the longest time I was paranoid about women. I'll be honest and admit that a few times I've thought my current girlfriend was doing that, though I didn't have any proof whatsoever. I was just utterly paranoid after the worst relationship I'd had. And we did break up once, I had forgotten. She was questioning whether she loved me anymore but it lasted only a few hours before she came back saying she realized she couldn't be without me. And we haven't really had serious fight in quite awhile. Hell thats still more than I've had! I've just had one serious relationship, dating here and there as i got older, but mostly.. an awkward amount of romantic "confrontations." All my friends and my sister want me to write a book about it because its utterly absurd. The stuff I've gone through is just hilariously unfortnate that I cant not share it with people. And I'll always be ashamed to be part of cheating. I was insanely short-sighted thinking it would work in my favor. Why it took me TWO instances to realize "if they cheat with you they'll cheat on you" I'll never know. But its the ultimate sign of insecurity. And to be completely honest, I'll forever be suspicious about women. My issue has always been that I'm too trusting, and I've amended that. Im much more careful about the people i become close to. Being cautious is good as long as you dont close yourself completely. And again I sincerely hope thats not happening with you right now, and that maybe she's just fickle and afraid to think that far ahead. She could totally just need time for reflection, but her actions are extremely unfair to you. |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 23:19:37 GMT -6
I've only had 6 girlfriends and none lasted too long. That one girl I talked about? It ended because she cheated. She was talking to another guy pretending not to be dating anyone. I found out and I was actually stupid and thought we could work it out. It didn't and we ended things. So for the longest time I was paranoid about women. I'll be honest and admit that a few times I've thought my current girlfriend was doing that, though I didn't have any proof whatsoever. I was just utterly paranoid after the worst relationship I'd had. And we did break up once, I had forgotten. She was questioning whether she loved me anymore but it lasted only a few hours before she came back saying she realized she couldn't be without me. And we haven't really had serious fight in quite awhile. Hell thats still more than I've had! I've just had one serious relationship, dating here and there as i got older, but mostly.. an awkward amount of romantic "confrontations." All my friends and my sister want me to write a book about it because its utterly absurd. The stuff I've gone through is just hilariously unfortnate that I cant not share it with people. And I'll always be ashamed to be part of cheating. I was insanely short-sighted thinking it would work in my favor. Why it took me TWO instances to realize "if they cheat with you they'll cheat on you" I'll never know. But its the ultimate sign of insecurity. And to be completely honest, I'll forever be suspicious about women. My issue has always been that I'm too trusting, and I've amended that. Im much more careful about the people i become close to. Being cautious is good as long as you dont close yourself completely. And again I sincerely hope thats not happening with you right now, and that maybe she's just fickle and afraid to think that far ahead. She could totally just need time for reflection, but her actions are extremely unfair to you. She has immaturity problems. Oftentimes, her answer to being mad is to ignore me. But as of late, she had stopped doing that. We would talk things out. Until tonight where she stopped replying to me. I'm hoping I hear from her tomorrow, but I just don't know. |
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Post by Agemoi on May 6, 2014 23:31:16 GMT -6
Hell thats still more than I've had! I've just had one serious relationship, dating here and there as i got older, but mostly.. an awkward amount of romantic "confrontations." All my friends and my sister want me to write a book about it because its utterly absurd. The stuff I've gone through is just hilariously unfortnate that I cant not share it with people. And I'll always be ashamed to be part of cheating. I was insanely short-sighted thinking it would work in my favor. Why it took me TWO instances to realize "if they cheat with you they'll cheat on you" I'll never know. But its the ultimate sign of insecurity. And to be completely honest, I'll forever be suspicious about women. My issue has always been that I'm too trusting, and I've amended that. Im much more careful about the people i become close to. Being cautious is good as long as you dont close yourself completely. And again I sincerely hope thats not happening with you right now, and that maybe she's just fickle and afraid to think that far ahead. She could totally just need time for reflection, but her actions are extremely unfair to you. She has immaturity problems. Oftentimes, her answer to being mad is to ignore me. But as of late, she had stopped doing that. We would talk things out. Until tonight where she stopped replying to me. I'm hoping I hear from her tomorrow, but I just don't know. Its good there's been progress though, so its obvious shes put effort into it. Definitely just take a breath dude, maybe play more spiderman! Let her take a day ((hopefully 1)) to sort her shit out and let her come to you. You've made your feelings known so the rest is on her and how she chooses to respond. And dude at the end of the day, you're gonna be fine  Whether good or bad comes of it. Im trying to find a couple funny photos this page posts in my facebook feed. They're silly but they alway smake me smile a little Here's one! I was feeling pretty down the day I saw this and it managed to make me laugh a bit. |
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Post by thecrimson on May 6, 2014 23:33:39 GMT -6
She has immaturity problems. Oftentimes, her answer to being mad is to ignore me. But as of late, she had stopped doing that. We would talk things out. Until tonight where she stopped replying to me. I'm hoping I hear from her tomorrow, but I just don't know. Its good there's been progress though, so its obvious shes put effort into it. Definitely just take a breath dude, maybe play more spiderman! Let her take a day ((hopefully 1)) to sort her shit out and let her come to you. You've made your feelings known so the rest is on her and how she chooses to respond. And dude at the end of the day, you're gonna be fine Whether good or bad comes of it. Im trying to find a couple funny photos this page posts in my facebook feed. They're silly but they alway smake me smile a little Here's one! I was feeling pretty down the day I saw this and it managed to make me laugh a bit.Haha, with the way I web-swing I don't know if playing Spider-Man will calm me down. But I'll either do that or try to get some sleep. But seriously, thanks for talking with me about this, you, WOlverine12 and Sage. Normally I don't have anyone to talk to so I usually drive myself insane. I'll give her some space and get some work done with Spider-Man. I'm going to get going, but thanks for that image, too  |
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Whether good or bad comes of it. Im trying to find a couple funny photos this page posts in my facebook feed. They're silly but they alway smake me smile a little 
